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Familiarity Trap

Gue kira, nyari pasangan yang emang familiar itu wajar banget. Ternyata, itu jebakan. Sebutannya familiarity trap . -- Dulu pun, gue ga engeuh kalo gue punya preferensi dalam mencari pasangan. Tapi temen gue menyadarkan, ternyata gue punya tipe yang cukup similiar. Gue kira ini wajar. Tapi makin ke sini, gue menemukan bukan cuma tipe fisik. Tapi rasa familiar.  Misal, gimana deketinnya, playlistnya, footbal club kesukaannya, band favorit, latar belakang keluarga.... TERNYATA INI TUH BISA JADI JEBAKAN -- Gue nemu saat scroll reels...  "Saat lo nemuin orang padahal belum kenal tapi ngerasa udah ada chemistry, you better run because your body try to tell you bahwa itu cocok dengan LUKA TRAUMA" That ((BELUM KENAL)),,, Deymnnn...... KENA BANGET. JADI, SELAMA INI GA BAGUS YA? Gue pikir kayak yaudah emang kita pasti lebih nyaman sama sesuatu yang familiar sama kita. Tapi justru badan kita seakan akan ngenalin virus yang sama dan willing to untuk ngadepin hal yang sama karena udah ...

"I'm grateful that I didn't do it" list

I'm grateful that: I didn't call him to tell him that it's always been him. I didn't ask him about Singapore's must-go places. I didn't let my friends know about my yearning for him. I didn't give any effort to someone who just gave me breadcrumbs and confused me. I didn't ask him out (again) to avenge his 'kindness'. I'm so grateful because Allah always saves me again and again. He saved my dignity and guided me to control myself to give my purest heart only to someone who truly deserves it. Nb: this context refers to many subjects and sequences.